Yes, it can. Good news right? Not “easy”, but “easier”, for sure! I’m no expert, but here are a few things that made all the difference for our little family
1) Sleep Schedules Really Can Help:
I’ll never forget the day when one of my friends, God bless her soul, suggested that my very fussy two month old might be getting “overstimulated.” I had somehow been under the impression that babies will “fall” asleep when they’re tired. “Fall”- like an unintentional act that just happens unexpectedly…. HA HA HA! Of course every baby’s different, but my little guy was born with his eye on the prize of experiencing the world 24/7. I learned that I had to cue him for naps and stick to a schedule. We chose white noise, a breathable blanket, and a bear paci (easier for him to find on his own) for his nap cues. You can check out our online store or click those links directly if you’re interested and need any of these items*. Of course what works for our little guy, may not be what works for you, but I would suggest 2-3 items (portable for when you’re on the go) that can cue nap times. This site has some great tips on sleep and a chart I’d recommend looking into if you’re not sure about how often or how long your baby should be sleeping: https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com
*Please note blankets are not a general recommendation, so always use caution.
2) Remember This is the “Fourth Trimester:”
Dr. Karp has a fascinating book , “The Happiest baby on the block,” on this subject…. ok, ok, so I’ve never read the book. But, I have watched the video and the material is priceless. He discusses what is referred to as the 5 S’s. “Shushing” (white noise or shhhh sound) for example, is one of several ways to mimic the atmosphere of the womb and help baby transition to life in the real world. He explains how babies need lots of comfort and womb reminders during the first 3 months of life. Implementing the 5 S’s really helped to calm our son and also made number one, sleep, much easier!
3) Work Smarter, Not Harder
Ok mom and dad, I know you’re tired and when you’re tired it’s easy to overlook those simple, practical things, but just don’t do it. Keep those bibs on 24/7 (much easier to change after spit ups), always cover boy parts with a wipe during diaper changes (… spray!), and for Pete sake, just buy more burp cloths, blankets, socks, or whatever it is you need to avoid doing 16 loads of laundry per week! There are plenty of products out there that can work FOR you. One of my personal fav’s (for us formula moms) is the formula Pro.
I’m sure plenty of this goes without saying, but just the other day I let my little guy play commando on the floor while getting his bath ready….. Poop everywhere…… rookie mistake.
4) Other Moms (or dads) Need to be Your Best Friends for a While
Now, let me first say, you need to keep your childless friends close too. They will help you keep the you part of yourself and they’re probably lots of fun! But, MOM FRIENDS. Can I get an Amen? Mom friends are some of the best because… they get it. I haven’t had personal experience, but I’m gonna assume Dad friends are the same. There are just things, things like newborn poop, postpartum bleeding, and attempting to resume your sex life post baby that childless peeps don’t need to hear all about all the time. For one because we love the human race and want to see it continue. But two, because you don’t have to explain yourself to your MOM FRIENDS. They have been there, done that and can validate your feelings in a way no one else can. You know they’re being empathetic and that can go a long way sometimes. Don’t have any mom friends? Visit a play group, find a support group in your area, message me. I’m serious, I’m an open book if you can’t tell and I’d love to be your friend 😉
5) Remember it Won’t Last Forever
Everyone will tell you this and you won’t believe them. I was convinced that I had the one baby in the history of time that was going to stay newborn forever. My life was doomed to be a sleepless, crying, and poop-filled disaster. It’s easy to get stuck in this mindset when you’re completely sleep deprived and feeding a helpless human being every two hours. But guess what?…. The laws of nature have yet to be defied. As far as I know no one has stopped time. That baby will grow up and these initial, difficult months will soon be filled with laughter and joy…. some poop, but it gets better and quite literally, greener!